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You Vs. Who?

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I was Cycling this morning and I noticed another cyclist about half a kilometer ahead. I could guess he was Cycling a little slower than me and that made me feel good, since I was faster.

I said to myself, “If I ride a little faster, I will catch up with him in no time”.

So I started cycling faster and faster. With every pedal, I was gaining on him a little bit. After just a few minutes I was only about 100 feet behind him, so I really picked up the pace and pushed myself. In that moment, all I could think about was getting past him and I was determined to do just that.

Finally, I did it! I caught up and passed him. It was a small moment of rush and joy where I told myself, “I beat him”. Of course, he didn’t even know we were racing. It was only after I passed him, that I realized I had been so focused on competing against him that I had missed the turn to my house!!!

In this entire unnecessary charade going on in my head, I totally missed out on enjoying the moment. I missed out on enjoying the activity that brought me peace, I missed out on seeing the beautiful greenery around, I missed out on paying attention to my thoughts and in the needless hurry my feet slipped from the pedal a couple of times and I could have have hit the sidewalk and broken a limb.

Like a lot of my other thoughts that I’ve penned on this page before, it then dawned on me, that this is exactly what happens in life when we focus on competing with people around us ; co-workers, neighbours, friends, family ; trying to outdo them or being busy trying to prove (to ourselves and people around us) that we are more successful or more important and in the process, missing out on our happiness within our own surroundings.


We spend so much time and energy running after them that we miss out on our own paths to our given destinations. The problem, I realised, with unhealthy competition is that it’s a never ending cycle. There will always be somebody ahead of you, someone with a better job, a nicer car, more money in the bank, more education, a prettier wife, a more handsome husband, better behaved children, better circumstances and conditions, etc.

But one important realisation is that

‘You can be the best that you can be, when you are not competing with anyone.’


Some people are insecure because they pay too much attention to what others are, where others are going, wearing and driving, what others are talking. Take whatever you have, the height, the weight and the personality. Accept it and realize, that you are blessed (Ofcourse, there’s always scope for growth and one should never stop working hard to be where they want to be). But accept it, be grateful for it and stay focused and live a healthy life.

There is no competition in Destiny. Each has his own.

Comparison AND Competition are the thief of JOY.

It kills the Joy of Living your Own Life. Run your own Race, one which leads to a peaceful, happy and steady life. Seek adventure if it suits you, seek competition if it brings out the best in you, but don’t let it pull you down or rob you of your joy or self-love.

I hope you find this helpful or atleast it provokes your thinking engines. Until next time!

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  1. Thought provoking post because I am definitely a competition-addict…
    But you make some very valid statements on how something I perceive as a quality can also be detrimental.
    Food for thought indeed!

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  2. This is literally the best piece I’ve read in a while. I love it. You speak the truth…that’s exactly what I tell people.❤️ The only person you should work on getting better than, is the you from yesterday. Competition and comparison is really the thief of joy.

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  3. Wonderful! I whole heartedly agree. Life is short and beautiful. And it sure does present our lessons in some pretty hilarious ways. ha ha ha!

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  4. It’s amazing how you could relate something as little as this, to life. But, you’re absolutely right, competition and comparisons are joy kills. We need to enough the moments more, every bit of it✨ Great post!

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  5. 🤔 a ponderous moment for the reader. Great post. Love “… I realized I had been so focused on competing against him that I had missed the turn to my house!!!“ how apropos. Why people focus on others and not on competing with themselves beats me!

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  6. Wow, so relatable!
    Ever since I started running, I was so focused on catching up with pace of my buddies in training regardless of the difference in fitness levels, and I always ended up injured either physically or psychologically!

    It was only until I stopped competing that I finally started enjoying and improving!

    Good piece! 👍🏻❤

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    1. Well it think what happened was just that due to your focus in beating your friends you totally did not train in the correct way. It’s not about whether or not you were competitive. It’s more about how you train.

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  7. This is truly an amazing write-up that gave me a ton of food for thought. Competition (particularly for more “prestigious things” ) has made me so narrow minded for a long time

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    1. Well competitveness is good, prestige is good, we as humans strive to “be somebody” and have some achievement. And it’s not wrong to do that, I mean who wants to be a no achievement bottom feeder. But I definitely agree with you, sometimes when u get too into it you lose sight of everything else. Moderation in everything is the key😀😀

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  8. That was ‘too good’. Actually people have started committing their lives to others’ lifestyle or others deeds; but they should actually focus on their destinations or their ambitions, rather than just pooping in into others’ lives. They have another way to live and you too can design your own way of lifestyle. Unfortunately, some of they don’t understand this!

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